When you meet a man in the doorway of a Mexican restaurant who later kisses you while explaining that this kiss doesn’t “mean anything” because, much as he likes you, he is not interested in having a relationship with you or anyone right now, just laugh and kiss him back. Your daughter will have his sense of humor. Your son will have his eyes.
The useless days will add up to something. The shitty waitressing jobs. The hours writing in your journal. The long meandering walks. The hours reading poetry and story collections and novels and dead people’s diaries and wondering about sex and God and whether you should shave under your arms or not. These things are your becoming.
One Christmas at the very beginning of your twenties when your mother gives you a warm coat that she saved for months to buy, don’t look at her skeptically after she tells you she thought the coat was perfect for you. Don’t hold it up and say it’s longer than you like your coats to be and too puffy and possibly even too warm. Your mother will be dead by spring. That coat will be the last gift she gave you. You will regret the small thing you didn’t say for the rest of your life.
Say thank you.
It’s hard to say why, in one of the most eventful periods of my life I’ve had so little to share. Near death experience, career-changing developments, invaluable life-lessons, they’ve all happened between the last time I was on this platform and now. But somehow, I didn’t feel the need to share them, and that’s ok. But what I did tell myself is that the first thing that really moves me is the first thing I will post this year. And I finally found it.
So I was recently introduced to an amazing website called Dear Photograph run by Taylor Jones. Basically it’s a portal of old photographs with a twist. Here’s how it works. People take an old photograph (usually from their childhood), then go back to the exact location where the picture was taken, hold up the photograph in-situ and take a photo of that (sounds complex I know, but it isn’t). Lastly, they write a short note to that new photograph starting with the words Dear Photograph. It’s a truly amazing concept and it’s no wonder why so many people have taken a liking to it and posted photos, the captions are also beautiful (see some examples below). In fact, so popular has the site become that Taylor Jones has just released a book with the same title, featuring some of the best photos from the website. Do as I did, check out www.dearphotograph.com and buy the book.